When it was the start of the year, we talked about our new year wishes.
But it was in the past. As of today, the number has changed.
No. I unfriended a lot of people myself, one by one without hesitation.
It was a hard choice indeed. However, there are certainly grounds behind my actions.
I realised that most of my contacts are rendered “useless” since, in reality, I talk to just only around 15 to 20 of them. Then I questioned myself the reason to have such a number of so-called “online friends”.
Also, I wish to clean up my thoughts as I felt that I was being stuffed with a lot of unnecessary information on FB. I started to blame myself for doing so and concluded the saga inside my mind with the move.
I remember that what a friend of mine told me and let’s call her Carmen (not her real name).
When I asked her the reasons why she isn’t active on FB as I met her last July, she said, “I want to know people who’ll be good to me and the ones who won’t do it behind a mask. That’s why I don’t feel like using Facebook”.
Numbers displayed on Facebook are just a mere indicator of “how many online mates you’ve made”. It doesn’t show that how many companions you’ll talk to in real life. Let alone asking them out to have dinner and chat with each other.
Finally, I started to realise who are the important people in my journey.
- Reshuffle the contents of my feed.
- Remove the “phonies” from my experience on FB.
- Be online friends with only the real-life individuals who are extraordinary and remarkable in my lifetime.
And here are my criteria in unfriending people on FB. One would be unfriended if they didn’t:
- Talk to me in (or more than) 12 months prior the unfriending action.
- Interact with my contents (e.g. give reactions or comment on my posts) from the start of our “friendship”.